By: Bret Gornik
You decide how to live your life. Yes, things are thrown at you and you do not always get to choose the hand that you are dealt, but, from today forward, you have the choice. You picked your job. You take the fork, pick up the food, and eat it. You go to the gym. You read a book. You select your friends. You decide who to date. Starting today, you will realize how all of these choices add up to how you feel at the end of the day.
Ask yourself: How do I want to feel tonight? Accomplished, proud, excited, or tired, bored, unsatisfied, and average?
It's time to turn up. If you are already a crusher, which most of you are, let's take it to the next level. If you are ready for a reboot, let’s start now. Not tomorrow. Right in this moment.
I have learned from my yoga journey that you need to look at yourself from time to time and make sure you are happy, or you will be failing those around you. Take time to examine yourself and make sure you are fulfilled.
To steal a term from one of my favorite books, The Alchemist, you must define your “Personal Legend”, your life's spiritual purpose. It's a spiritual calling that awakens a deep desire and passion to live with a sense of purpose for something greater than yourself. What is your meaning? Once you define this life essence then you will understand that every decision your make plays into whether or not you are achieving this life mission.
One of my favorite quotes is, "You are the product of the five people you spend the most time with." I couldn’t agree with this more. When you are with your drinking buddies, you drink. When you're with your gym rat friends, you work out. We are often a product of our environment. The overlooked part of this statement is that you CHOOSE those five people you spend all your time with. Who is in your top five?
Work Colleges/School Mates
Does your work team motivate the hell out of you to be the best you can be? If yes, keep them in your life. They are helping you grow into the best person you can be. If no, it’s time to change teams or jobs. You will not achieve your Personal Legend by coasting and surrounding yourself with people who do not inspire you to work hard.
Significant other (if applicable)
Does your significant other support you and help you flourish? If yes, he/she is on the squad! If no, this is tough, but you need to make the choice. We tend to get caught up in how relationships look on the outside. We spend time posting Instagram pictures together and rack up as many “likes” as we can, but if behind closed doors the love and support are not truly there, you are selling yourself short and missing out on an important aspect of relationships. Every relationship in your life should have a positive impact on you.
Do your friends help you through hard times and push you to get better? If yes, they are great! If no, years together in a relationship does not necessarily mean it's a positive impact on your life. Choose your friends.
Make sure your friends are moving forward. Always grow and surround yourself by those are want to be great.
Your mindset is everything.
You wake up every day. You can either snooze your alarm, and reluctantly get ready. Or you can meditate, workout, enjoy a healthy breakfast, tell someone in your life you love them, and go ham! The same sun comes up on Monday that comes up on Saturday. Live for that day, no matter which one it is. The key is to think for yourself.
Take one-step forward.
Make conscious choices that you decide to make with the understanding that you choose your life's direction. Do not go with the flow or do anything you do not believe in.
Your body is yours. Yes, your height is hard to change. Sorry we are not all 6'5'' 220 lbs NBA point guards (damn, I wish) but your image of yourself is your choice. You choose who you follow on Instagram, you watch reality TV, you order your dinner, and you are the one that walks into the gym. This is all your choice.
You do not need to be the next fitness model, actress/actor, or personal trainer, but you need to be healthy. Your health is your wealth. Without a functionally fit body, you slow down. You make more excuses. You don't think as clearly. You take less initiative.
Being healthy opens up so many doors. You have more energy. You set goals. You strive for greatness. Your optimal fitness level is up to you and what you want to look like is up to you. Do not let others sway your Personal Legend. You chose it. Never settle.
Depending on where you are in your life, you are in school, working, both, or none.
No matter where you are in your life, you choose to go into the classroom, office, or neither every day. Why do you go to class? What motivates you to get in your car and drive to work? Do you go to work at 9m and leave at 5pm because those are your “hours” or because you believe that is how long you should be working?
Does your job correlate with your Personal Legend? You might not be in your dream job, but are you on the path to get there?
Did you choose your major because investment bankers make the most money? Or, are you in Neuroscience because you really love how the mind works?
I chose economics because I thought business was the only major I could get a job in after school. I never once contemplated switching. I never once stopped to realize that this field was not what I was passionate about. I never realized that switching my major to something I was actually interested in was an option. I took a corporate job because that could pay for a car, apartment, and bills. I did not even know the real role of the job until I worked there for 6 months. That was not my Personal Legend. However, it is never too late to turn things around and start living your Personal Legend. Ask yourself, what is my purpose? What can I do that will make others better? How do I want to feel at the end of the day? This was the defining question in my life's quest.
I want to have the best day ever, everyday. I am my best when I improve the others around me to be healthier and follow their passions. I need to know that the sky is no longer the limit.
How do you want to feel at the end of the day? The choice is yours. Have the best day ever.