Goal "Achieving": Set. Grind. Achieve. Rejoice. Repeat.
by Live Better
This week, we're discussing "goal achieving" instead of goal setting. We're always setting goals, but are we always achieving them?
When have you ever started a New Year's Resolution and accomplished it? What was the last goal you set that you completed, start to finish?
Often, we have an easy time setting goals. These are the things we aspire to achieve; lose weight, get a new job, eat healthy, travel more often, read a book, pickup a new instrument...on and on we go without ever following through.
The fact of the matter is our mind (and our bodies) take the path of least resistance. We do things easily when we're motivated, but fail when we're not. It's easy to start something when it's new, novel, and exciting, but we fail when it becomes tedious and becomes "work."
In our last Live Better Book Club, upon reading David Goggin's Can't Hurt Me, the group immediately set goals to achieve by the following book club meeting (side note: if you want to join us, even by Google Hangout no matter where you are in the world, please sign up here and join the 90+ strong going hard in the paint on reading and crushing life...this ain't your average book club). We have goals ranging from getting in bed before 10pm 10 times, reading out loud, never missing a programmed run en route to a half marathon, and mastering a forearm stand to standing an hour a day at work and eating no added sugar foods.
These were set, on the spot, and we continue to hold each person accountable through group message and email response. In pursuit of achieving your own goal before May 30, 2019 (our next book club date - book: Dare to Lead by Brene Brown), please follow the challenges below and tag @livebetterco on Instagram with the hashtag #bookclubGOALS to share with us!
Your goal can be anything you want; physical, mental, emotional goals are all welcomed and encouraged (just make sure it really pushes your standard boundaries).
Find someone you really admire, reach out to them (social media is good for something), and ask them how long it took to get good at that thing you admire them for.
Here is a sample message:
Hey [insert name]! I just wanted to share that I really admire you for [insert reason]. It's been so meaningful to me to follow your [insert work journey], and I just wanted to know how much time it took you to get really good at [insert skill]."
We can guarantee it wasn't luck, it didn't happen overnight, and it took some days where [x activity] really sucked...but they stuck with it anyway.
Running doesn't always feel good. Sitting in coffee shops waiting to hear back about interview results doesn't always go well. But crossing the marathon finish line abso-f'ing-lutely does, as does receiving an offer letter. You best believe the result justifies the effort; you need to put in the work to achieve, not just plan.
But what happens when your (personal, individual) effort just isn't going to be enough? We go to your support for help.
After setting your goal (yes, please make it S.M.A.R.T.), set in motion an accountability team. Know in advance who you're going to call on to keep you moving. Take note of when you normally lose steam, and create a fail-safe, default go-to path for following through.
For example, on Tuesdays you normally work late. You normally workout in the morning, but had a work emergency and got called in early. It's now late, you're tired, hungry, and "just don't feel like it." Who're you going to call? Where can you go? Who can workout with you? What song will get you excited?
There will be days you DO NOT feel like servicing your goal. You will be unmotivated, distracted, tired, even angry that you are "forcing yourself" to do XYZ.
But you've got your go-to. You're going to ask for some help and encouragement. You're going to receive it in the form of an ass kicking. And then you're going to be a professional and get it done.
The results justify the effort. As our friend Tim Dixon likes to say, "excellence is a minimum standard." Please don't let your accountability partners, us, or Tim, down.
You have 37 days to achieve something epic.
What are you doing DAILY to get it done? Who will you rely on?
Write it down. Get after it. Live Better.