How To Build The "Best Day Ever" Mindset: Step Four - Risk. Review. Repeat
by Live Better
"Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely."
- Henry Ford
Consider this question: What is the difference between a beginner, an intermediate, and an expert?
Go far enough down to the root difference and you simply get the number of times someone was willing to try, fail/succeed, and try again. Consistency of effort, skill building work, strategy, coaching/mentorship, and dedication are the difference makers in success. The speed at which this process occurs is a reflection of how "wise" the strategy is on the next time around.
Step four in developing the "Best Day Ever Mindset" is to risk, review, and repeat. Simply, we must risk by doing (we talked about this is week three under 'Performance'). An idea will be just that until it is put into action.
To grow from that experience (to do so more "wisely" in the future), we must take a review of the process. Did we do enough "detox" (week one)? Did our "first principles" and the "process" hold true (note: you could have sound first principles and simply fail on execution; it doesn't mean your principles or strategy was wrong, it just means you failed to execute)?
Walk through your journey from the first step to the last; did you do everything in your power to set yourself up for success? Was there anything you would have changed? Was there anything you did really well that you would repeat?
This is the final step: Repeat.
We get asked on a weekly basis, "How do I think about starting [insert passion] as a career?" Want to know the real answer? You just do it. You start, try, fail, succeed, fail, succeed...risk, review, repeat.
Want to get better at having tough conversations at work? Want a raise, more responsibility, or more vacation days? Ask. After receiving the response, review how the experience went. Did you say too much? Too little? Were the principles you stood on for why you deserved what you asked for honest and truthful? How did you phrase your ask(s)? Were you visibly nervous? Confident?
I'll say it again: Walk through your journey from the first step to the last; did you do everything in your power to set yourself up for success? Was there anything you would have changed? Was there anything you did really well that you would repeat?
You can apply the 'Best Day Ever' Mindset to anything. A physical pursuit, developing mental toughness, practicing patience, being a better father, mother, daughter, son, or spouse...anything.
Be intentional about what you want. Work hard for what you want. And don't forget to try again, no matter the result. This is growth.
The first step in developing a stronger mind is to eliminate the things that are causing your weakness. We cannot tell you which things those are; only you can decide what you want and how you want to get there. On our roadmap, eliminate first until you hit the basics and the necessities.
The three S's: Subtract, Specify, Simplify.
The most important conversation you have all day is the conversation you have with yourself. Is it one of "job well done" or one of "I just can't seem to get anything done today"?
You control what you consume and how you consume it; otherwise, someone else will decide for you.
Once we detox, then we can better develop "first principles."
Determine your values and what you stand for. Then, layer processes on top of your principles. "I will go about training for my marathon this way with these people at these times." Through the process you will set and meet goals.
Step three is performance; put your money where you mouth is and execute. This involves an inherent level of risk. It is time to put plan to action.
Just remember, "the perfect plan you never follow is absolutely worthless." It doesn't have to be perfect - it just has to be good enough.
Step four is to review. Did you get the result you wanted? If yes, what can be repeated to ensure success again? If no, what could have been done better along the way?
What are you doing today to be better than you were yesterday?
This is what it means to "live better."